7 – Interview with Kylie Lowe, Founder of Joining Hands, a Social Enterprise with a mission

In today’s episode, I had the privilege to interview Kylie Lowe, founder of Joining Hands Australia.

I met Kylie in 2016 when I signed up to become a GiveBack Ambassador for Joining Hands to assist in providing wellness services to the homeless and vulnerable of Brisbane.

Through these amazing give back days, where I helped provide Haircuts (I am a qualifiaed Hairdresser) to homeless youth, I got to know Kylie and her mission to connect on a deeper level to these vulnerable people.

We talk about how she has overcome massive health challenges to be able to know that she is here for a reason and to be a voice to those who are voiceless on the streets of Australia.

Kylie started out in 2009 giving wellness clinics to women and children for free and has developed a sustainable business where she invites other passionate business owners to become a part of the social impact she is creating.

Kylie says, she started out with a vision and a dream  and with no business knowledge, she surrounded herself with successful people and looked for constant support to be able to make her mission possible.

Through creating strong connections with these young people, Kylie understands the importance of creating kind and giving business relationships and how being aware of your inner narrative through mindfulness is a great way to keep you on purpose.

 

To find out more about the impact Kylie is making please visit her website on https://joininghands.com.au/

and to become part of the Giveback Ambassador Program please check out https://joininghands.com.au/giveback-ambassador/

You can also connect with her on Facebook on https://www.facebook.com/joininghandsaus/ and Instragram on @joininghandsaus


 

 

Thanks for listening

 

Love
Christine

5 – Lessons learnt from Tony Robbins at Unleash the Power Within

After an epic 4 day event with Tony Robbins at Unleash the Power Within Sydney, I share the lessons I learnt and the experience I will never forget.

I got a little of the Tony Flu and lost my voice after all the screaming and yelling, so please be patient with my voice.

*We control our physiology and therefore control our state

*The Training never stops

*We all have limiting beliefs and we have the power to change them

*Proximity is Power

*How to live an Outstanding Life

*Knowledge is not power, applying what you’ve learnt is.

*Make your life  a masterpiece – Tony Robbins

 


 

4 – Network Marketing Millionaire , Interview with Amy Andrade, wife, mother and Millionaire

I love this episode. Amy is a successful Network Marketer and an amazing wife, mother of three.

In this episode we talk about how she has retired her husband in less than 10 months, how she has built her business without using social media and how her success has changed her and her family’s lives.

 


 

You are who you spend the most time with.

“You’re The Average Of The Five People You Spend The Most Time With” – Jim Rohn

It is so important to surround yourself with people who lift you up, expect a high standard from you and bring out the best version of yourself. Otherwise, you find yourself accepting less. Less from yourself, less from others and eventually you find yourself unhappy in life, love and career.

Change is inevitable. We are slowly changing every day. Our bodies are changing, our mind is developing new reference points and our lives are transforming.
Each day our cells are changing. The lining of our stomach is renewed every few days, our colon cells die off every four days and are replaced with new ones, and we grow an entirely new skin every 2-3 weeks.
Whether the change for the good or for the worse, is up to you.

Change is inevitable. Growth is where the progress happens. And growth can happen every day – if you create it.

When I first read this quote by Jim Rohn, I was in a job I had grown to hate and was surrounded by people who accepted mediocre as great and negativity as the norm. And I realised that I had slowly but surely, slipped into the same mindset and expectation of life. And I was so unhappy for it.

One of our core fundamental needs as a human being in this world is to feel like we belong. To be a part of something. Call it pack mentality if you will.
So whether we are aware of it or not we actually adapt our breathing, movements, and behaviors to match the people around us. And this is what I had done. Become like those around me.

So think about the people you spend the most time with? How have you changed or adapted in their presence?
Every day we encounter mostly the same people, from our close family and friends, to our work colleagues.
Can you count the top 5 people you spend the most time with?
Do they lift you up? Inspire you to be your best self?

“Change can happen in an instant” – Tony Robbins

I know that you’re thinking. Well, I can’t just quit my job and stop spending time with my family even if they are negative. I know. I thought that too.
You cannot control other people or how they think. All you can do is control how you think, how you react and what you accept.
Once I realised I wanted my life to change, I went about creating new experiences, and surrounding myself with people who inspired me and had a thirst for life, like I did.
I started to limit the time I spent with the people I felt brought me down and started taking some time to think about how I allowed other peoples opinions of me, affect me.
I made new friends, learnt new things and gained a new perspective of how I wanted my life to look.

Before I knew it, I found my mindset start to change and then the people around me started to change as well.

“You get what you tolerate” – Henry Cloud

What you tolerate you allow. And I was allowing people to walk all over me. I was allowing other peoples expectations of me to lower my own expectations of myself. I allowed people to complain, whine and blame other people around me for their shitty lives. I allowed people to drain my energy and to use me as a scapegoat for their lack of happiness.

So I needed to work on my boundaries.
Setting personal boundaries can be liberating and stressful in the same sentence.
I have found the best advice about Boundaries, to come from Christine Hassler, on her podcast “Over it and on with it”. Christine explains that boundaries are not about telling people how to treat you, but how you will behave if a boundary condition is breached.
Like – ‘If you do this, then I will do this’ type scenario.
Such as – “If you speak to me like this( raise your voice, speak to me like I am a child) then I will not respond. I will only respond if you speak to be kindly and politely.”
I have found this to be quite effective, as you are not passing judgment on someone else’s behavior, rather just letting them know how you will react if they choose to do a certain behavior.
So once I was able to clarify my boundaries the relationships with friends and family started to change.
Some I have moved on from and some have changed so considerably that I now consider them to be some of my closest friends.

How can you place yourself in different circumstances and new environments to raise your own standard of living?
Sign up for a new class or course
Explore a new place or even your local environment
Set yourself a challenge
Attend events and gatherings where people you want to meet will be

This year, I decided would be a year of growth and progress for me. I invested time and money into my own personal development so I can be the best version of myself, hold space for my clients and show up for the people in my life that I value the most.

Health, personal development and growth in business were my key values to work on. So I signed up to New development classes, booked tickets to do 4 days with Anthony Robbins, Signed up for a Charity Fun run (first ever) and attended networking events and business masterminds. Some I have completed and some are yet to come and I have loved every minute of it. Even the awkward uncomfortable ones. I am still to do the Firewalk at Unleash the Power Within and even though I’m a little scared, I know and am so excited for the growth, change and self belief that this is going to create in me.

So what can you do this week to step outside your comfort zone? Where can you raise your standards and expect more from yourself and your life?

You only have one life to live.
So you may as well go big.

Here’s to you.

xoxo

They’re going to find out….

For a couple of months now, I’ve been thinking about starting a podcast. And it’s been playing in the back of my mind for a while because I absolutely love listening to podcasts.
It’s something that I do almost every day.
I spend a lot of time in the car, so that time is spent listening to amazing people tell interesting stories, hearing about people overcoming challenges and living extraordinary lives. Podcasts allow me to make the most of the time in the car, learning valuable lessons from successful people all over the world.
Learning from people who have come before me, opening up my mind to a new perspective allows me to take new knowledge and new inspirations into my day.
I prefer Podcasts, to listening to the radio because the radio can become very monotonous and mind-numbing.
You can choose any topic and I guarantee you will find a podcast about it, with very interesting people. It has become one of favorite pastimes, listening to the likes of Lewis Howes, Lori Harder, Brooke Castillo, Sophia Amoruso and Tony Robbins, just to name a few.
So I thought to myself, I want to create a Podcast.
So I thought, what would it be about? Who would it be for? What type of content would I have? Who would I like to interview?
Once I answered these questions, I was able to create a list of people I would like to collaborate with and then that gave me my answer, of what my podcast would be.
I have never recorded a podcast or done anything like this before. I have no idea what I am doing.
And just as I had that thought my mind took me back to my highschool days where I took a extra curricular class on “How to speak (become an announcer) for Radio”.
It’s so funny how life brings it all back around. I remember I really liked that class, not that I ever wanted to be a Radio Announcer. Yet, now as I recall that memory, how useful it was. I even remember the breathing exercises and speaking activities we did to prepare. How amazing is our brain to recall such a memory I had not thought of in over 15 years.

So I went about my way to figure out everything I would need to create a podcast:
– Ordered a Microphone on Ebay
– Listened to other Podcasts on how to record a Podcast
– Downloaded the Audacity program to record said podcast
– Created some mock ups of Cover images for the podcast on Canva
– Started creating a list of episode Ideas
– Watched a couple of You Tube Videos for extra how to’s
– Watched videos on how to promote the podcast
– Read some articles on how to upload to iTunes and Soundcloud
– Searched and found some music to use for Intro and outro

This was all over about a month and the idea just percolated in the back of my mind for a while.
There was something holding me back from actually doing the podcast. There was a little fear coming up around it. I wasn’t sure this was something I could do and be successful at.
And I kept thinking, “who am I to create a podcast? Who am I to go and do what all these other more qualified people are doing?
Would I be just copying other people? Or what could I possibly teach other people and who the hell would want to listen to me?”

Through all the clients I have coached through similar situations, I am aware that this is just a little bit of fear showing up. And also an aspect of the Imposter syndrome. The feeling of being found out a fraud. That people are going to find out that I don’t know what I’m talking about, or that I have no idea or that I know anything about business or whatever else the little inner critic wants to throw at me.
Thoughts like that can be very damaging to our confidence, self esteem and detrimental to our goals.
So the idea just sat there in the back of my mind for a little while, and I talked about it with a couple of people and they had some really great encouragement for me, saying “Go ahead you should totally do that.” But I didn’t get any closer to recording anything. That microphone was looking pretty lonely on my desk at home.

A couple of weeks later, as the universe likes to conspire for you when you have great ideas – I was listening to the radio one-day instead of a podcast and an ad came on about a competition for up-and-coming podcasts! Hello!

So that day, I got home and looked into the competition. I had 3 weeks to get it done.
So do you know what I did? I waited another 2 weeks before doing anything.
Nothing like a deadline to push through the procrastination. So I thought, the only way to push past my fear was to face it head on.
I researched more about the Imposter Syndrome and even found quite a few famous people that had come across it. Emma Watson, Tina Fey, Kate Winslet and Michelle Pfeiffer, amazingly successful female actresses that have reportedly struggled with the Imposter syndrome.

“[N]ow when I receive recognition for my acting, I feel incredibly uncomfortable. I tend to turn in on myself,” she admits. “I feel like an imposter.” Emma Watson

“I didn’t come from Juilliard,” she said of her acting beginnings in 1978. “I was just getting by and learning in front of the world. So I’ve always had this feeling that one day they’re going to find out that I’m really a fraud, that I really don’t know what I’m doing.” Michelle Pfeiffer.

“The beauty of the impostor syndrome is you vacillate between extreme egomania and a complete feeling of: ‘I’m a fraud! Oh God, they’re on to me! I’m a fraud!’
“So you just try to ride the egomania when it comes and enjoy it, and then slide through the idea of fraud.” Tiny Fey

So what is the Imposter Syndrome?
According to Wikipedia:

Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon or fraud syndrome or the impostor experience) is a concept describing high-achieving individuals who are marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud”.

I don’t believe you have to be a high-achieving individual, I believe that anyone wanting to create something new, push themselves out of their comfort zone or put themselves out there have experienced this at some point in their lives.

I don’t know what I’m doing
I don’t know how to do this
I don’t have the skills
I don’t have the ability
I don’t have the talent
I don’t have the knowledge
I don’t have the charisma… the confidence…. the qualifications…. the reputation.
All of the above.

So the question is – how do we overcome this? How do I push past the fear and achieve the things we want to achieve without the feeling of not being worthy or like we are going to be found out a fraud?

In the words of Tina Fey, she deals with it, kind of like riding a rollercoaster. Understanding that it’s gonna happen, there are going to be times we feel like that and being able to acknowledge the thought and allow it to pass by and still get on with the game. Being able to focus on what you want to achieve and get it done. Push past the fear, acknowledge the thoughts and choose more empowering ones to overcome it.
What thoughts pull you out of the imposter syndrome and create the motivation to keep going? That would be empowering, so we feel like it is something that, we could achieve?

I believe in myself
I have life experience to teach and expand for other people to learn new things
I believe the message I have to share is relevant and important
I believe that the right person will hear what I have to say and it will make a difference in their lives
If believe I am just as worthy as any one else in this field

And if I do do it and someone called me a fraud could I handle that?
What is the meaning of a fraud?

Being fraudulent
Something involving criminal activity or fraudulent behaviour involving deception of some kind.

I hold a high enough standard for myself to know that I will not perform any kind of criminal activity or ask for credit for other people’s achievements or activities.
I want to have my own voice, I want to share my stories and share stories of others from their words so that others can have insight into their lessons and create inspiring moments to change their own lives.

Where in your life do you experience the Impostor syndrome? Have you ever experienced feeling like a fraud? Feeling like you may be found out? Feeling like you don’t deserve what you want?

There is enough in this world for everybody.
There is no need for us to believe that we don’t have a voice or we don’t deserve to be heard.
Change the dialogue in your mind and things will change.
Focus on what you can bring to the table, how you can add value, how you can support other people in life.
Take yourself out of the equation, do it for the love, the mission and the bigger picture.
And stop comparing yourself to anyone else.

Allow yourself to make mistakes. This does not make you wrong, or a failure, and does not make you a fraud.
Failure is just a little bit of feedback. Being able to notice failure as feedback rather than making yourself wrong, helps you to overcome and move forward.
When the weatherman gets it wrong, we don’t call him a fraud and tell him he can never never do the weather again!
When a scientist doing an experiment has something go wrong, does that make them a fraud? If they they fail that experiment 17,000 times before they find the right way that works, they were never an impostor or a failure.
You just get back up and give something new a go.

Choose to believe that you deserve the success, as much as the next person.
We were all born deserving. We were all born with the ability to be our unique selves.
When a new baby is born, we don’t look at that brand new baby and decide what he deserves in life.
So how ever old you are now, you are no less worthy than the day you were born.

Remind yourself of that.

Be more you. The world needs more people who are willing to be themselves, be true to who they are and be upfront and honest about that. Find what you love to do and go do that.

So I recorded my first podcast from beginning to end in three takes. I had goosebumps and butterflies in my stomach, I was short of breath and nervous but I pushed through and I got it done.
And when I was finished, I entered it into the competition and I was beaming from ear to ear.

So exciting times! I’m about to launch a new podcast..

It will be called The Next Level Life Podcast and it’s going to cover exciting topics, have amazing guest speakers and hopefully bring you a new perspective into creating a happy and successful life and business.

I hope that you will listen. Launch date coming soon. I will keep you posted.

Now go find what you love to do, push past the fear and take your life to the next level!

What I’ve learnt from successful business women

For the past 6 years, I have worked with amazing business women, supporting them in achieving their business goals and dreams. We work on everything from analyzing their business performance, their ideal target market, marketing, their profit and loss, their staff’s performance, product sell through, ways to bring in new clients and to build on their existing clientele- all ways to grow their business.

Out of the 100 or so businesses I worked with on a regular basis, I loved seeing how excited these owners would become when things started to work for them. I loved how they took the ideas we created and ran with them and achieved the success they were looking for. Yet, there was always a small percentage of owners that struggled implementing and executing the same success.
What fascinated me the most was, how some owners that were given the same information, same great ideas and yet, didn’t have nearly the same success.They second guessed themselves, they blamed their staff, the market, they found any excuse that may justify why things weren’t working and found that no matter what they tried, it just didn’t work.
Personally, I love to see people succeed and so this really frustrated me. I didn’t know what else I could do and I felt like I wasn’t serving them the best I could. I didn’t understand why some people made it happen and created such amazing momentum and then others didn’t?
What was the difference? What makes someone successful?

I have always been an avid learner, I believe we are always growing and I am always working on improving myself.
So I began researching ways to be successful in business and life to find some new solutions. I started studying successful business people, and what worked for them. I invested in myself, and my education going to conferences and events and then came back to share my knowledge with these women.
But what I discovered was that no matter what I learnt, no matter what solutions I suggested “You can lead a horse to water… but you can’t make it drink.”
What was I missing? What drives people to achieve the success??

Firstly, I looked into Edisc Behavioral Profiling and I loved it! It helped me understand why I do what I do, why I see things the way I do and what motivates and drives other people.
Behavioral Profiling assisted me to better understand people’s communication styles, what motivated them and how they processed information.
How important is communication in business? Huge right??
My business owners loved these training’s! It helped them understand their team better, their clients and how better to communicate to be on the same page with their customers to get amazing results.

So I had the business aspect down pat, my owners were interacting better with their team and they were working toward their goals.

Like everything in life, things change. We come up against challenges and how we handle these challenges can either make or break a business.
So where some women came up against adversity and took it head on, moved through it and learnt from the experience, others headbutted the wall and told themselves they wouldn’t be able to get over it and then proved themselves right.

One of my favourite quotes is one by Jim Rohn –

“Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom.”

From here, I wanted to know why. I wanted to know, how I could assist my clients to get better, be more wise and learn new skills to be more successful? How can I teach them to fail fast and then learn that failure is just feedback?

So I delved into studying human behavior through Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Life Coaching and Matrix Therapy and how our thoughts create our feelings and our emotions ultimately are creating our results in life.

Through studying successful people, this is what I’ve observed and discovered:

– They set big dream busting goals and revisited them on a regular basis
– They saw their business as an entity outside of themselves.
– They were able to be objective from a space outside the business. This kept them less emotionally connected to the outcome.
– They took failure as feedback. They don’t make it mean anything about themselves as a person like “I’m a failure”, if things don’t work out. This helped them make business decisions based on what the business needed, not what they felt like doing.
– They’re flexible- if something doesn’t work they try something else. If a promotion didn’t work they look at why, how, what they can do differently next time. They look at what they can learn from it and move on.
– They take responsibility for their part. They take care of their energy, their communication and look at the big picture not just the daily frustrations.
– They always had a list of options. Business is like a game of football- There’s always another play, another game, another technique. There’s no room for giving up, and resting on your laurels
– They believe in their ability to succeed
– They don’t compare themselves to anyone else.

It’s all mindset. The difference being making a choice to progress. It all came down to their thoughts.

It was the difference between above the line or below the line thinking. Above the line thinking is very solution focused and positive and Below the line thinking is where we blame, justify and deny what is happening and stay in the victim mentality.
Here is a little insight into each area:

So if you are feeling a little stuck and unhappy with where your business is at right now and would like to achieve more success. How could you adopt the Above the line thinking to assist you in moving forward?
Are there areas where maybe you feel you are thinking below the line? Sometimes I find myself in this way of thinking when things aren’t going my way and I just use this as a reminder to keep my thinking in check.
Am I focused on the problem or the solution? Am I looking for the possibilities or am I sticking my head in the sand?

We are all a work in progress and if you choose to learn anything from successful people around you then try and understand their behaviors and their thinking patterns and then model those for success.

I guarantee you will find amazing solutions, open up new possibilities and find the success you are looking for.

Here’s to your success,