88 – Sober Curious with Ruby Warrington, British Author & Thought Leader

Ruby Warrington is a British writer and thought leader currently living in Brooklyn, NY. Formerly Features Editor on the UK Sunday Times Style magazine, in 2012 she launched The Numinous, a cosmic lifestyle platform that updates all things “new age” for life in the Now Age. Ruby also works as a consultant, while other projects include “sober curious” event series Club SÖDA NYC and spiritual coaching program Moon Club.

Author of Material Girl, Mystical World, Ruby’s second book, Sober Curious, was published on December 31 2018. Offering an eye-opening new way to think about our relationship with alcohol, Sober Curious reveals the enormous benefits that come from unlearning the mindless habit of drinking and embracing the life-enhancing choice of sobriety: greater joy, clarity, confidence, and connection.

This conversation dives into:

  • Demystifying the myths of our drinking culture
  • How we can cultivate conscious drinking choices
  • Allowing the space to investigate what happens when we re-frame our relationship with alcohol and to remove the stigma that exists around sobriety and alcohol abuse.
  • Our biggest fears of not drinking and how it affects our relationships.
  • Learning to listen to and trust our intuition
  • Building true confidence without the fuel of alcohol
  • What if consciously choosing a more sober life meant feeling “high” more of the time
  • How to break the pattern of mindless habit of reaching for a drink

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Numnious – Modern Spirituality platform

Check out her Book Sober Curious

87 – The importance of Play

Are you a workaholic? Take things seriously and know exactly what needs to be done before you have time to relax and enjoy life? Do you think taking time out is just a distraction from working on the important stuff?

Happiness is not a destination and life is meant to be lived, not just worked!

More and more scientific studies are showing that the power of play is just as magical for adults as it is for kids. And as creative heart-centered entrepreneurs, we need an outlet to be able to stay on top of our game and keep dreaming up new ideas and being creative every day.

So I’m going to take you through 6 important reasons why you should be adding more play into your day!

Play enhances our sense of wellbeing

Playing releases endorphins, the feel-good chemicals that help us feel happy and enjoy our lives. Supports a positive disposition and helps us see the positive side of everything! The strong endorphin rush of playing a game you enjoy or just being silly for no reason counteracts the effects of the stress hormone, cortisol, that can leave you feeling sluggish or depressed – so it combats stress which is a proven fact.

Play improves your Relationships

Playing games with other human beings helps us experience more connection which is one our human core needs. By playing a game, be that a board game, a sport of some kind, with family and friends strengthens your bond and builds trust.

Playing together regularly builds trust, as we start to understand that our friends and teammates have our back and we’ll take care of them, too.

Laughing also releases oxytocin, the chemical that helps us feel connected to another person. So what better way to play than to laugh with friends and family.

Having a pillow fight with your significant other can help bring you closer together by letting you be less serious and bringing out the fun, spontaneous side that you originally fell in love with, as studies have shown that playfulness makes us more attractive.

Could you be more playful at work? Not only does this boost connection with your colleagues but encourages comradery and a supportive atmosphere.

It also boosts your productivity, reduces stress because you can start to see work collegues in a different light and see that they are human as well.

Play boosts your Energy

A 5 minute dance party for sure restores my vitality, gives me a boost and helps me let go of stagnant energy of sitting in front of a computer

Play supports our immune system. Even going outside for a stretch and some movement has been proven to increase perceived energy levels. But even playing a game inside can be better than a cup of coffee if you’re feeling low—firing off different connections in your brain and trying something new stimulates both your brain and your body to perk up.

So taking a quick walk around the block, going for a swing at the park is enough to shift your energy and boost it for the rest of the day without the highs and lows of a coffee habit.

It boosts Creativity

Taking some time to play tops up the domamine in our brain so we can have more conscious problem solving thought and opens up the creativity centres of the brain.

The more you allow yourself to play, the more that kind of creative thinking will permeate your whole life.

Play Improves Brain Function

How can you use play to make your brain work harder? Playing strategic games like chess, crosswords or solitare, can help to form new connections in the brain, keeps your brain young and active, , firing up those neurons and ensuring that you stay sharp, helping to prevent aging affects,

Use it or lose it

So what’s one thing you’ve been dying to try?

Play improves your happiness

Every time you succeed at something, it boosts your confidence and happiness and it helps to train your brain for positive emotion.
What’s your default? Try shaking your ass and not smiling. We need to train our brains to experience more positive emotion so the default is happy, not sad, playful not stressed, curious not fearful.

86- Transform your Fear


Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

How is fear holding you back and keeping you playing it safe? Fear is a natural part of our human experience and if we don’t change the relationship we have with it then it can control our every move.

Want to transform your fear and create the life you want?

In today’s episode you will learn;

  • How to illuminate the filter in the brain to create awareness
  • How to identify where fear is keeping you playing small
  • How to identify your limiting beliefs
  • Allow fear to be present without controlling us
  • How to change your limiting beliefs to create a different outcome
  • Prove fear wrong to break the cycle
  • Learn to feel the fear and take it with you

I mention these amazing books during today’s episode:

May cause miracles by Gabrielle Bernstein

Feel the fear and do it anyway! by  Susan Jeffers

For more information on my Business Empowerment Program check out the information here:

85 – Growth is us doing something different with Naomi from The Lifestyle Edit

Naomi The Lifestyle edit
Marketing expert, international speaker and business coach, Naomi Mdudu works with creative female founders who want to make a living doing what they love.

Naomi believes that we are the masters of our own destiny; that we have the power to make our lives and businesses look exactly as we want them to; that audacious goals are worth striving for and that successful businesses come from alignment, not hustle.

Our conversation dives into:

How to grow and scale your business

Implementation paralysis to taking Aligned action

Sitting with the discomfort and understanding the differences in fear and proactively seeking out the opportunities to push past the fear

Defining success throughout the journey as you evolve

The power of money mindset – are your limiting beliefs stopping your clients from investing in you?

Getting curious with failure

Don’t scale the problem

Vehicle of transformation to fulfil the compelling desire of your people

Empowering questions support the up leveling experience

How are you nurturing your people?

How to redefine your business to prepare for scaling

Surrendering and allowing others to step into their power

How can you make the biggest contribution to your business?

How analysing the numbers can be the most empowering step

What you’re missing in your marketing copy that could make all the difference

Naomi spent the majority of her career working as a fashion editor in national newspapers in London where her true education came from navigating the delicate balancing act between the storytelling of editorial and the commercial engine that kept that possible. As a business strategist, Naomi worked with some of the leading names in the fashion and lifestyle industry on creating compelling campaigns and activations. She now makes those strategies and insights available for the start-ups and solopreneurs that need them through her work as a business strategist and coach.
Today, entrepreneurs hire Naomi to provide them with the clarity and action steps necessary to grow and scale their businesses. Her super power lies in taking the product or service they have worked hard to create and giving them the tools they need to stand out in a crowded market so that their ideal clients can find them.
Media Links:

Mentions: The Desire map by Danielle Laporte,
Playing big by Tara Mohr, The E Myth by Micheal Gerber. Start up school with Seth Godin

84 – Why you’re not reaching your goals


What’s happening? Does it feel like you’re doing all things but feel like you’re not getting anywhere?

I’m going to break down the mental, emotional and physical things that may be holding you back from achieving your goals.

Mentally:

Are your goals too big? I don’t mean too big to achieve – have you broken them down small enough so they are achievable?

They may not be specific enough or clear enough and this is keeping you stuck. Do you have systems and processes in place to create the results?

Emotionally: What’s holding you back emotionally? Are your goals inspiring enough? Are they connected to what is important to you? Maybe it’s time to get some leverage on yourself?

Physically: What action are you taking? Is it massive action?

Are you checking in with your goals regularly enough? How do you keep yourself on the right path?

What’s out of alignment? Let’s dive into why you’re not reaching your goals!

Check out my free 25 page Guide to 7 Revenue Boosting Strategies to grow your business

83 – You’ve got this

Can I just tell you – You’ve got this! Honestly, stop second guessing yourself, stop talking yourself out of it, and just trust. All is happening for you in divine timing and it’s going to be great! 

Just keep showing up! Showing up for yourself, your business and for those that you want to serve. Everything else will happen from there.

Remind yourself what’s important. Remember why you started and reconnect with your why. Anytime you feel yourself getting off track, being led astray, bring your attention back to your centre and breathe. You’ve got this. 

Ok, so I totally just wrote that for me. I needed to hear it. I need to remind myself on a regular basis that I’m on the right path. Pursuing your dreams can be hard. It can all seem like it’s going great guns, and then all of a sudden you feel stuck, lost and disconnected. Disconnected from your self, your inner knowing and the universe. But it’s at that moment, that you must remind yourself that that is impossible. We are always connected, we just have to stop, listen and breathe.

It’s so easy to get caught up in the doing, the rushing and the hustling. Which can often lead us down the wrong path, and when that spiral gets a little out of control that’s when end up out of alignment.

When you’re out of alignment it can feel like things just aren’t working, like you’re doing all the things but it’s like you’re forcing it, pushing shit up hill!

I can get so focused on my business that I don’t notice that other areas of my life are slipping out of control and that’s where the dis-alignment starts to happen. We let external things affect us, we get off course and stop listening to our inner voice. 

So I created a podcast just for you to remind you how amazing you are…. so If you need a pick me up, this is for you.

It’s an uplift and reconnect episode that I like to call “You’ve Got This!”

Check it out here

82 – Stuck in consumption mode

Have you signed up to a new course and not started it? Booked in for another workshop, event or study option? Feel like you need a new qualification to get started?

Are you looking for the answers, that one big thing that will change everything? Stuck in constantly learning without following it with action?

Could you be stuck in the learning, addicted to the consumption?

Why do we do it and how we get stuck on the consumption wheel

“Knowledge Is Power But Knowledge Without Action Is Useless. … Knowledge is power but knowledge without action can be useless. “Abu Bakr

There are a multitude of underlying reasons, and mostly will be individual to the person. Here are a few:

  • It’s comfortable and safe – we know what to expect, we know how it will feel and it’s easy.
  • We’re certain of the outcome. Comfort and certainty go together and are actually a core need for all human beings, but there comes a time where meeting this core need can become unresourceful, that it has become necessary to over – fulfil the need.
  • Connection – We love the energy, connection and uplifting feeling of learning something new, being in a training room or group dynamic with other inspired people and feeling good about life.
  • It’s fulfilling a need for Significance – I must be the expert and know everything to feel important
  • We get a dopamine kick when we finish learning something new. Dopamine is a chemical that hits the reward centre in our brain. Often called the happiness drug
  • I am stuck in the cycle of doing the same thing

The problem is that there is no risk in consuming.

There’s no fear of rejection, humiliation, getting it wrong or failure.

Why do we get stuck in consuming, learning instead of taking action? The blocks could be:

  • Believing that you need to know everything before you can start
  • Don’t believe in your own creativity or ability

Other ways this could be showing up in your life:

  • Clutter and hoarding. Struggle to throw things out and are always adding to the pile
  • Always feeling unclear in your next step
  • Binge watching netflix or tv series’
  • Signing up to memberships and subscriptions
  • Constant FOMO – Fear of missing out
  • You sometimes lose sight of why you’re consuming the information

This is what you’re great at:

  • Starting things 🙂
  • Absorbing information
  • Getting inspired

The Training never stops – Tony Robbins

So how do we move forward?

There are some key questions you need to ask yourself to be able to make this change:

  • Do I know one person in the world that I am confident I can help with this information?
  • What am I afraid of?
  • How can I fulfil my needs for Comfort, Connnection, Certainty or Signifcance in another way?
  • How long am I willing to tolerate where I am?
  • What’s the point of consuming the information if I am not using it?

If you don’t use it – you lose it?

True mastery is in taking the action and learning from the experience.

It’s time to start creating and start doing!