58 – Starting things, maintaining and getting good at finishing them

What are you the least skilled at? Starting things, maintaining things or finishing them?
Uncovering hidden behaviours that hold us back can create the awareness we need to move forward in our lives and business.  Have you considered why you may struggle to start, maintain or finish things in life?
On today’s podcast episode, we delve into the hidden fears and drivers to our behaviours when we consider these three patterns.  We uncover what could be hidden in our subconscious minds that deliver these behaviours and what we can do to change them.
Starting Things
  • IWe need to choose 1 thing and build focus and determination
  • Overcome perfectionism
  • Prove to ourselves we are worthy to get started
  • Overcome fear of responsibility and success

Maintaining Things

  • Improve discipline with rewards along the way
  • Create smaller milestones
  • Recognize when we’re quitting
  • Refocus and continue to remind ourselves why we started

Finishing Things

  • Overcome fear of judgement & failure
  • Build resilience
  • Plan ahead of time what might stop us from achieving our goals
  • Overcome the belief we don’t deserve it
  • Ask ourselves what it is costing us to not get things finished
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The LWYD (Love What You Do) Collective October Event – Hustle & Flow

We are so pumped to announce the next LWYD Collective Event – focusing on a hot topic lately; hustle and flow. These events continue to blow us away, and are such a powerful space of community, collaboration and real, meaningful connections.

 

Over the hustle mentality, the grind and the burn out? Us too. Still want to get sh*t done and rock your powerhouse self? US TOO. The good news? We can, from a much more powerful and abundant way: flow. From this space, of swimming WITH the stream – we can do, be and have our hearts desires AND create massive impact WITHOUT that familiar feeling of continual pushing. Without all the should’s and expectations.

 

This event we are going to dive in to how to tap in to your flow state, so that you can show up to your life, your mission and your vision with EASE…and have some fun along the way too! It’s time to bring in our next level of feminine leadership.

EVENTS

 

 

Blog – Change your thinking, change your life

“Change your thinking. Change your life! Your thoughts create your reality. Practice positive thinking. Act the way you want to be, and soon you will be the way you act.” – Les Brown

Sounds simple doesn’t it? Easier said than done but it is the best work you will ever do for yourself!

Every day we have around 60, 000 thoughts a day and we as humans have an innate ability to not only observe our own thoughts but have another thought about the thought we observed and then judge ourselves having that thought, all in the one breath.

You may think, wow, 60,000 thoughts how am I ever going to manage my mind? But not all of these thoughts need changing.

It’s important that we uncover the default thoughts we have on a daily basis that no longer serve us so we can start thinking and feeling better.

If are wanting to have different results in life, we must first start with our thoughts.

Every day 80-90% of those 60,000 thoughts are repeated thoughts from yesterday, they have become so habitual that we don’t even realise we are thinking them.

How does a thought become so default you may ask?

Each time we think the same thought it is reinforcing the maylin sheething on that neaural pathway in the brain, making it a stronger and familiar thought to think.

Have you every driven home and when you arrived, thought to yourself – I don’t remember stopping at those stop lights or going past that place – you had driven that route so many times  you were on autopilot.

Our brains are magnificent machines and they do this to preserve it’s energy for survival reasons.  When we become so comfortable doing the same thing every day, with those default thoughts., we’re on autopilot.

And when we learn something new we are creating a new neural pathway that is not a well driven road yet, so it takes conscious effort and energy to think those new thoughts.

This is why we struggle to make change in our lives and why it takes so long to build a new habit, because our brain is creating new neural pathways that needs repetition and time to develop. It can take up to 2 months for a new thought or behaviour to become a habit.

Think of an area of your life that you are dissatisfied with, where your results are not what you’d like them to be and ask yourself; “How do you feel about that area and what thoughts come to mind when you think about it”.

Are they positive thoughts and feelings? Do those thoughts make us feel motivated and inspired?

If not, it might  be time to change them.

Mastering your Inner Critic

Sometimes we don’t even realise we’re having an unhelpful thought about an area of our lives because those negative thoughts or the inner chatter has become so default that we don’t even recognise it anymore.

The first step in creating a new habit or making a change in our lives it to first recognise the negative inner chatter and start changing that.

It’s important when that when we start to build awareness around those negative thoughts, that we have the awareness without judgement. Let’s be kind to ourselves. Judging ourselves and our thoughts is what got us the unhappy results in the first place.

one activity that I suggest with my clients is to start noting down the negative thoughts you have into a notepad daily.  Especially notice your thoughts around when you feel triggered (experiencing negative emotions)or reactive. Notice when you start doing something that you no longer serves you and start noticing the thoughts you had before you did that behaviour.

Consider these: When you are procrastinating, eating food for other reasons than being hungry, feeling the need to drink or numb yourself, self sabotaging behaviours, or spending money frivolously.

Notice when your inner critic is saying hurtful or disrespectful things. Is this something you actually believe? Or is it someone else’s voice, from that one time someone said something awful to you?

Here are some techniques I use and suggest you try to be able to stop that inner mean girl/boy from being hurtful.

Stop/Cancel/Choose Technique; Become aware what thought you’d like to change. Say out loud, Stop/Cancel and then choose a more empowering thought to think.

Argue with it; If it is a really strong belief that you repeat over and over and you know you don’t want to think that anymore, have a rip roaring argument with that inner critic. Say it all out loud if you like, it is so powerful(for you and your subconscious mind) to say out loud the reason why you are no longer choosing to believe that thought.

What would love do?; Stop that inner critic in its tracks and ask yourself “What would love do in this situation? What would love say?”

Forgiveness is a beautiful thing; Sometime we need to say sorry to ourselves and our inner child for all the hurtful things we have said and done. Try writing a forgiveness letter to yourself, releasing all past hurts and words.

Your past doesn’t not equal your future

When we have a new experience in life, our brains filter the information through all of our past experiences we have ever had and through a need to be efficient, it then files it with a similar experience.

So often, when we think about doing something new we reflect on if we have been successful at it in the past, or if we’ve tried it and failed.

The way we think about the past and about certain experiences shapes our we feel today and also shapes our behaviour today and tomorrow. If you let it.

You have a choice to reflect on past experiences and make them mean whatever you choose to make them mean.

Even if they were distressing, painful times – you can choose to take the lesson with the experience and make it mean something empowering rather than dis empowering.

Take some time to reflect on any past experiences that may be affecting you today and spend some time reframing how you would like to think about that event.

For instance; say you got fired and it was a terrible experience for you. You could make it mean it was the worst thing that ever happened to you.

Or you could reframe it and make it mean, it shaped who you are today, it helped you deal with rejection and not only that, has got you to where you are today.

It’s all just a change of your perspective. When you can reflect on a painful time and take the lesson in disguise and can shift how you feel about it, more positive thoughts and behaviours can help you create the change you want.

What’s your preference? 

In your everyday life, as you go about your day, do you generally recognize everything you have in your life or everything that is missing?

Interesting how this has become another part of your default thinking. Recognizing this and shifting your perspective to a come to a place of gratitude also helps to shift the negative inner chatter and change your outlook on life.

It’s so fascinating to notice and start shifting your thoughts to everything you have, because not only does it make you feel better instantly, it also opens up new opportunities and more abundance into your life.

Practicing gratitude on a daily basis is known to increase happiness levels by up to 25%. The practice of being grateful, not just for a day, but as an established habit, has been linked with numerous physical and emotional benefits and as such, has been shown to improve overall quality of life. Well worth it I think.

“You are not what you think you are, but what you think, you are.” – Brian Tracy

Our thoughts shape our whole experience of life and yet, it is a daily practice to change our thoughts for the better.

Let today be the day that you stop talking to yourself in a negative way, start recognising all the good you have in your life and let go of the pain from the past. You and your future are worth that commitment.

Everything can change when you choose a new thought and explore a new perspective.

 

 

 

57 – Making business possible with Mandy Richards, Founder & CEO of Global Sisters

What’s your mission? And what are you willing to do to achieve it?

How stubborn are you willing to be to make it happen? And why is it important to you?
Uncovering you “WHY” takes your mission to a whole new level and today’s conversation with Mandy Richards, CEO & Founder of Global Sisters uncovers just that.

Mandy is a social entrepreneur who is fiercely passionate about human rights, eradicating poverty and empowering women which led her to establish Global Sisters in 2014, a Not for Profit organisation which exists to enable women to be financially independent and stand tall. They provide a genuine alternative for women who are unable to participate in mainstream employment, by removing the barriers they commonly face, they make self-employment a viable option.

Mandy’ s diverse career path over the past 20 years has spanned the commercial and not-for-profit sectors where she has worked internationally on government business incubation programs in Botswana, New Zealand as well as high profile charities including the Hamlin Fistula Hospitals in Ethiopia and locally as National Marketing Manager for the RSPCA.

Today’s inspiring conversation covers:

  • Experimenting to succeed in business
  • When the mission is strong it never feels hard
  • Creating sustainable businesses
  • Creating community and tribe
  • Making social change for women and mothers
  • Defining Success
  • What it takes to be an entrepreneur
  • Turning failure into learning
  • It’s not always about the money
  • Having faith in yourself
  • Following your dreams and money will follow
  • Always learning to develop your mission
  • Scaling a business
  • Don’t let money be a barrier
  • Learning from others to scale your business

 

 

 

 

56 – Taming your Inner Critic

Every day we have a minimum of 60,000 thoughts and majority of those thoughts are the same thoughts we had yesterday. If we want different results in life, we must first change our thinking.
How many of those everyday thoughts are you actually aware of? Most of the time they are so ingrained in our mind that we don’t even realise that we are thinking them,they have become so habitual it’s like we’re on default mode.

These thoughts are constantly driving our emotions and our actions, which in turn then create our results.

How does your inner critic show up? We all have that little voice in our heads telling us that we’re not smart enough, skinny enough, pretty enough and sometimes it be so subtle that we don’t even realise it’s affecting how we feel until it’s too late!

Before we can change our habitual thought patterns, we must first become are of them.

So on today’s podcast episode I take you though a process to uncover your habitual daily thoughts so you can choose whether they are serving you or not. From there you can start to change them.

Firstly we need to learn how to interrupt the pattern so we can start to choose a different thought. There are many techniques you can can use to improve your inner critic and turn her from the mean girl to the cheerleader and here are a few ways I take you through today!

55 – Stories we tell ourselves and how to get past them

Have you ever got to a birthday or major milestone in your life and found yourself feeling unhappy with how things have or haven’t worked out?
Have you gotten to a certain time in your business and thought you should be further ahead or be making more money ?
 
These old blueprints or old beliefs where we think we “should” be, or think we “should” have achieved something or become something, or was “supposed” to have experienced by now only cause us pain and regret, and can keep us stuck in self pity and self doubt.
 
So how do we get past them?
 
On today’s podcast, I go through a process to be able to reflect on life as it is and find a way to move forward by uncovering what’s really important in life!

Through every stage in our life we realise there are beliefs we have about what we think we should have achieved, or was supposed to have by this time in our lives and this can often be a story we have adopted from someone or something else.

This can be a place where we feel out of control, helpless and stuck in a place of suffering. This is not an ideal place to be and can leave us feeling unworthy, undeserving and useless.

It’s important that we use these milestones in life to reflect on how far we have come and uncover what is really important in our lives.

Today’s episode is all about recognizing where we have a story or old blueprint causing us pain and how to get past it.

By utilising these questions, we are able to get out of a state of negative emotion and into a place of gratitude and appreciation.

  • What am I happy about in my life right now?
  • What am I excited about in my life now?
  • What am I proud of in my life now?
  • What am I grateful about in my life now?
  • What am I committed to in my life right now?
  • Who do I love? Who loves me?

The next stage to be able to move past these old beliefs is to discover what is really important to us.

Do you know your current values?

Use this time to put your values in order – what is your top five values and how do you currently experience them in your life and how could you improve the amount of quality time you spend living into these?

Here are some Values to consider:

Health

Wealth

Freedom

Contribution

Love

Growth

Achievement/accomplishment

Creativity

Happiness

Intelligence

Honesty

Making a difference

This episode is brought to you by September’s LWYD Collective Event.

For more information check out this link – https://events.humanitix.com.au/lwyd-love-what-you-do-collective-september-event

 

53 – Productivity isn’t about doing “All the things”

How productive are you in your business? Are you happy with the results you’ve created in your business?
Would you like to take your business to the next level?

Today’s episode is all about working out the activities and where you spend your time in your business that actually produces the results and the profit you want.

What have you created?

What outcomes and solutions have you created for your clients?

How do you prioritize what is important in your business?

What activities produce the most results and how often are you doing these?

This episode was brought to you by my BUSINESS EMPOWERMENT PROGRAM, my 9 week coaching program designed to take your business to the next level.

 

 

53 – Breaking down the break up with Belinda Love

Breaking down the break up with Belinda Love

Belinda Love. Self-Love and Empowerment Coach, NLP Practitioner and ex Bachelor contestant from the 2017 (Matty J’s season) and Author of Breaking Down the Breakup.

Belinda penned her debut book, Breaking Down the Breakup- The four emotional phases you go through when dealing with heartbreak, to enable readers to cast away the negativity they harbour from past relationships, and create a clearing for a happier future while attracting genuine connected relationships. Her journey relating to love and relationships has been somewhat of a rollercoaster and after a few broken, emotionally, verbally and physically abusive relationships she arrived at the realisation as to why she was attracting this type of partner and decided to look within to find the answers.

Belinda is now devoted to inspiring and empowering people all over the world, to feel loved everyday regardless of their relationship status, and to know they are lovable even if they are single. Belinda’s purpose is to help others live a life of self-love and delivers her content all over the world via one-on-one coaching, online courses and in person seminars.

On today’s episode we discuss:

  • Belinda’s Bachelor experience – behind the scenes from last years season
  • Finding Self Love first before finding love
  • The truth behind loneliness
  • Expectation vs goals
  • Recognising your values and how to uphold them
  • Strong suits & rackets
  • The four emotional phases you go through when dealing with heartbreak
  • Discovering your blind spots
  • Learning to ask for help
  • Finding forgiveness for past relationships
  • Reigniting your feminine energy
  • Dating & Tinder profiles

 

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52 – You know you manifested that right?

Believe in what you want so much that it has no choice by to materialize. – Unknown

Every day we’re manifesting new results in our lives and not even realising we’re creating our reality with our thoughts. The law of attraction and manifesting has always been a little woo woo to me yet I have noticed that I have often manifested things in my life without realising it and yet, it has always worked out in bizarre ways.

So I wanted to look into this further to understand if there was a way I could use it to my benefit and stop manifesting the things I didn’t necessarily want in my life.

So what is the law of attraction and manifestation.

On today’s podcast, I break it down into practical steps and uncover the ways in which we are unconcsiously creating things we don’t want if we’re not careful!

 

Step 1 – Visualisation – thinking is powerful especially when we apply positive emotion to it. Society grabs our attention often in a negative way and it’s up to us to direct our attention to what we do want more of in our lives.

Step 2 – Positive and Negative Emotion – where to use it and and how

Step 3 – Contradictory thoughts – how you are manifesting the stuff you don’t want. What dream killing words we can’t help ourselves use and  what are you doing that blocks the law of attraction?

Step 4- Allow, Trust and surrender – possibly the hardest part for us control freaks.

Step 5 – Setting intentions before you transition into new segments of your life

Things I referenced:

BOOK – The Law of Attraction – Esther and Jerry Hicks

Big Magic – Elizabeth Gilbert

Tony Robbins – Priming exercise – You Tube

We are so excited to announce the next LWYD Collective Event

– with Special Guest Steph Doyle – The Soul Echoist!

Our last event was the biggest one yet, and I have a feeling this month’s event will be no different! The beautiful and kind words that came out of August’s event have truly moved me and I’m still buzzing from the high vibe of the night.

This month, we welcome a special guest speaker:

Steph Doyle -The Soul Echoist!

Steph is a photographic storyteller, life blogger, creative badass, soulful wordsmith, spiritual empath, intuitive AF and an absolute empowerment Kween!

Steph is fascinated with the power and beauty of human connection and if you have ever watched any of her Insta stories, then you will see she is unapologetically truthful, genuine, human AF and all about the inner workings of what makes us real!

Coupled with her love of deep, soul warming sharing, her passion for sharing everything and anything else – she really is a mixed bag! She’s spontaneous, open minded and struggles to keep her focus on one thing only. She wants it all and she wants to share it all, from the depths of her heart to the height of her laughter (which is also loud AF).

Her infectious energy and beautiful openness will perfectly set the scene to dive deep into mastering your inner critic at our September event!

We all have that voice inside our heads, that constant chatter, the angel and devil, telling us that we’re not good enough, skinny enough, smart enough, confident enough, worthy enough  – all the enoughs that keep us playing small and stuck in our heads.  Some people call it the ego, or the mean girl and it can either tear us down or lift us up.

When we learn to master our inner critic, we take the power back and turn that little bitch into our cheerleader.

Would you like to learn how to tame and master your inner critic, so you can step out and do the things that you’ve always wanted to do?

 Let’s learn together as we uncover the inner workings of the critic and create some powerful tools to overcome the negativity and start living our lives to the fullest.

Are you willing to come on this journey with us? Let’s go!

Grab your tickets now – HERE – https://events.humanitix.com.au/lwyd-love-what-you-do-collective-september-event

And if you haven’t joined our Private FB Group yet you can join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/266746357174068/?ref=bookmarks

 

 

51- Are you self sabotaging your own success?

Behavior is said to be selfsabotaging when it creates problems and interferes with long-standing goals. The most common selfsabotaging behaviors are procrastination, self-medication with drugs or alcohol, comfort eating, and forms of self-injury such as cutting.

The Act of destroying or damaging something deliberately so that it does not work correctly

Self Sabotage, what I believe is a response to an feeling or emotion that has become habitual when left unchecked which then becomes an un-conscious behaviour that becomes a problem.

This is why we come to believe that it is out of our control. That we “don’t know” why its happening and we cannot change it.
There is always a reason behind all action. There is always a purpose or a pay off.
Self Sabotage is also a form or buffering like over spending , over eating, drinking, spend excess time on socials or dating apps and taking drugs.
Using language like, “I don’t feel like it” or “I don’t know” because we are not willing to actually look at what is causing the reaction
What emotion are you trying to avoid? And are you willing to experience short term discomfort for long term success? We need to learn to experience and accept all the emotion, whether it be negative or positive, as this is the human experience.
We first must decide that it is something that we want to change, and be willing to look at the emotion/feeling that is causing it and then choose to accept the emotion so we can choose to override it to create the success we’re looking for.

50- Why your vision needs to be BIG.. and how to get clearer

Wow! I cannot believe I’m at episode 50!!  When I started this podcast last year, I never even thought that I would get to this milestone!  And it got me thinking… am I not thinking big enough?

It’s amazing how the universe nudges you in the right direction when you start to show up for your life and your business. I have loved recording every episode and have loved every guest I have had one and I am so excited for what is to come!!

So where could I be thinking bigger? Do you spend time thinking about what you want for your life and your business? Are you limiting yourself and playing small?

When we compare ourselves and only surround ourselves with people who are playing at the same level, we can find ourselves not even realising that we’re limiting the possiblities

So this episode is all about thinking bigger and how to get clearer on your vision!  Spoiler alert – think bigger!

As yourself what is possible? Surround yourself with the big players and open up your mind to new possibilities!

I hope you love this episode, as much as I loved recording it!  Thank you for listening!

 

Don’t forget to Write your Future Bio and Journal on your vision and do a thought download!